How do we go About Finding The Right Person?
It is funny how we’re all looking for that special someone; a decent, trustworthy, great man/woman. That one person you can always talk to, rely on, that got your back. But we failed to look for that upon ourselves. We failed to look at ourselves and ask these questions; Am I a good man/woman? Am I Trustworthy? Do I have these qualities that I’m looking for in another person?So the question remains; are we that person that we are looking for in others? Can we match up the qualities? Would someone find these qualities in you?
I know these questions might seem a little bit redundant but if you can’t truthfully/genuinely answer “YES” to these questions, then you ought not to speak toward these qualities. You ought not to judge the people who do not have these qualities; neither should you be complaining about it.
First of all, you don’t deserve it. I know you probably feel that “Ey, I use to have these qualities, but people did this, people did that and now I don’t have them anymore.” but if these people ask you to jump off a 200-story building, would you have done it? If you wouldn’t, then why blaming them? Did they hold a gun to your head and tell you to change? Then if not, I don’t see why you take a turn down into the dark side!
Wake up! If you want good thing, do good things and good things will happen to you. Don’t wait to find that person then try to change for them. No, it doesn’t work that way. It will be too late. You might lose them before you even change. It’s hard to break bad habits.
Being unfaithful is a habit, being disrespectful is a habit, being dishonest is habits…a lot of these are habits that a lot of us have.Some of us can control it, some just can’t. So don’t go around saying all man/woman are this, all man/woman are that like Jesus said “Let he without sin cast the first stone.” ~John 8:7.
I promise you most of us if not all, are not worthy to even touch the first stone. Let me not make an assumption and just ask the question “ARE YOU WORTHY TO CAST THE FIRST STONE?” go head, answer that. If you genuinely can’t say “Yes” to this question, do me a favor and stop judging others. In other words, practice what you preach. Be who you looking for in others.
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You know what, I totally agree with you. This is why I carry myself a certain way. I want to attract certain people in my life.I’m sure a lot of guys don’t see it this way. Some of them are straight dogs.. ugh!
I think I have the same characteristics that I’m looking for in a woman, but those women are hard to find. What do I do in this case? I guess in the time being, Ima just live my life. ✌🏾